Warning: A lot of this post is going to sound very cliché and you’re probably going to wonder what on Earth I’m smoking. …Trust me, I’m not.
No Two Snowflakes are the Same
We all have our battles in life, but what determines how we will come out at the end of them?
At this stage in my depression journey, I’ve accepted that things have happened to me (and by “accepted”, I don’t just mean that I can say they’ve happened). I can actually see how my experiences have built me to be an insightful mother and compassionate person who strongly believes that change is needed and possible.
I know God has a plan for me…what? Who knows.
But, one aspect I’m hung up on, is in regards to comparing myself to other people (yeah, I know…”don’t do that”).
I know there are others who have suffered through experiences like mine, and a greater number of the population continue to survive through worse than I can imagine. But, why do some people crumble when faced with these adversities, while others overcome and grow? How can two people faced with the same event have such different reactions?
I don’t expect an answer to this in my lifetime, and it is one that has plagued scientific minds for generations. There are a million variables to compare (e.g. socio-economic background, environmental/biological factors, genetics, etc.), but can a person’s “breaking point” be calculated? If yes, can it be avoided?
Where’s the Speed Bump?
In today’s American society, we are pushed to be the best, to climb the ladders of success, to make more money, have more stuff, more, more, more…but, we are not taught what it looks like to embrace, enjoy and soak in the glory of a win in our journey.
Wanting more is not necessarily a bad thing. However, if we do not know how to be content, then I don’t believe we can ever know what happiness means. Maybe this is an underlying factor to why depression is at such a high rate. Yes, more people are publicly talking about it, and with breaking down the stigma others are more willing to discuss their battle…but, what if the stigma was only one factor in the equation?
Maybe while society was in such a hurry to achieve greatness, we missed the speed bump that would have allowed us take a moment, reflect and breath in the amazing things that are right in front of us.
The Cold Truth
One cold, hard truth that I personally realized recently is that I am limited, and I don’t mean in the obvious “I’m only human”. Honestly, there is only so much I am capable of (no matter how smart, dedicated, motivated, etc.) and no amount of wishing nor hard work will change that. God had to literally, physically throw me on my backside to get me to see this.
This does not mean that I give up, expect everyone around me to do everything, or constantly feel as though the world owes me something. All this means is that I learn to accept that what I have accomplished is actually an achievement, no matter its size; and I celebrate it (no, it doesn’t have to be a party every time, but if you’re up to it then go for it!).
If I Can Leave You with One Thing
My advice, and I say this with the utmost love: recognize that there is only so much you’re capable of, only so much you are meant to learn; you are limited.
We are meant to be part of a community…each person bringing their limits to the table so we can work together in order to succeed. You are not expected to do and know everything…it’s literally impossible, so take that pressure of perfection off of your shoulders. You’re the one that put it there, so you have to be the one to pull it down.
Have courage, and be kind.